marriage + mother in law =?

okay...today topic..marriage + mother in law..maybe u've got one,or about to have one or,far from to get it..everyone has their own opinion,experience.some is good n some might be less fortunate to get a 'devil's wear prada" kinda mother - in - law.. : P..

well for me,i'm about to have it but not to soon..quite a long time b4 i get it. am i ready? i dunno,since she is a new person in my future life with a different attitude fom my family members..not knowing she so well actually,just meet her for a couple of time..but as far as i'm  concern,she is kinda ok. not so fussy,whoever her son pick,shejust say yes with it..well we don't know in future.but i guess we can fit well.

mm..i got an opinion..once we get marry,it will be much better if we just stay away from both family,i mean not away for a million mile from your family,just stay away for ur own scope of new life.in ez word,no any of our parent in ur new marriage life..

does it sound mean n selfish..w8 a minute let me get this stuff clear.i mean like not staying in one home.it's just we n our spouse.i know there is lot of new married couples staying with their own parent/parent - in -law (if i can call that,my english is not that good..)n not having a trouble with it.it's good for u two,but generally i think most of us still want to live our life on our own.

as for me i choose to stay away from both parent since i'm afraid if there is a problems,argument happen throughout the marriage in condition we live with the parent/parent - in -law,we cannot learn how to make our own dcsion eventhough (i think)marriage teach people to be more mature in life..bias of the dcsion might also be occured.not saying we can't ask for advice from our parent.yes we do need so,since they know more about us,but it will be much better if we just handle it first b4 ask for some advice.

mm..the other thing is,have u heard or know anyone of ur freinds,relative or ur own sibling got married to mother son n at the same time need to stay with them after married (must be living like in hell huh?)mother still want to keep full hand of their son eventhough u r there as a WIFE yet has no power or ability to treat ur husband as u should.mumma want to cook for them,mumma knows what he like,what he should eat,what he love.what he hate..etcs.n u just wanna burst out."well hello!i'm here.am i invisible or what?!!i suppose to take care of him!i'm his wife if u attend the wedding last 2 years!!! n bla..bla..how miserable is that*sigh*

i can't imagine being one though..hope not n positively no..i dunno y could this happen,to any mumma,who ever done this,please mumma,give ur daughter - in -law do what they need to do.don't be afraid that u r going to lost ur son.trust me he still luv u,u the one who let him to see the world. c'mon ,give him a chance to live with the love one. they grown up.they need to be more independant.marriage doesn't mean he is taken forever.he choose the women he love n just trust him with his choice.she must  be the one that he belief can take care of him.

furthermore,staying under one roof with parent will lead to lack of privacy for the married couple. u know sometimes there is a stuff or problem that just need to be discussed between u two.parent,can't be avoided from knowing every single thing that happen around them ecs. when we live under one roof.they know their children very well.even a glance at the 'problematic face'that we made and always fail to hide  if there is problem ,can let them aware that something wrong going on.sometimes we just not ready to share it.since sharing it might cause different interpretation that can lead to make the problem worst.some parent choose to be fair when helping in making a decision,this is lucky then.but some parent luv to bias in helping making a dcision or in giving the advice.then this is  will become the problem ABOVE the problem.do u get what i mean?  hope so..

there is a lot of thing need to be considered (based on my personal opinion) before making a dcsion to live with parent after marriage.i want to say it again..not all will end up by givi u a trouble but as far as i know base on my observation,it will be more difficulties compare to happiness.

so,whatever u choose think first before go into making a dcsion cause we don't know what might be happen n we don't know do we face it inteligently or it just can give us a nightmare then.u know what is good for u n ur love one.it's worth to just say it instead of u just hide it.

cik yat.11.48pm.